Lifestyle Developing Serenade

Develop a Strong And Interesting Lifestyle

If you're a guy who people stay away from because it seems like you just came out of the crapper with toilet paper hanging out of your pant leg and the door hit you on the way out, you're going to have to work on developing a more interesting lifestyle as well as gain some more self-confidence.

Do not let women interrupt your process of pursuing and achieving the things you want to in life. If you are without a strong destiny or purpose in life, it is going to be so easy for any wind to sway you (such as a beautiful woman entering your perimeter).

You have to be so solidly focused on your path, goals and destiny that no woman can tear you away from it. Yes I know that the desire for sex is so strong, especially when it is so fragrantly and flagrantly waved in front of us, but you have to realize that sex is not everything. Yes, it's great but ultimately it is STILL just only a part of your life; it is part of the balance.

If all you think about is sex because you can't get any, you're going to come off as desperate. It's the 'vibe' you're putting off and women can smell it (like the crapper scent). If you can have the strongest, rock solid path in life and make no excuses for it, this alone is more important than studying 1,000 pick uplines. This is natural pheromones that she can pick up from across the room.

Women WANT so desperately to meet a real man who doesn't just give in to their (false) sense of (derived) power. American men will continue to be confused when it comes to women because they don't understand all of the implications involved EVEN IF they are leading a strong and interesting lifestyle.

They are unknowingly letting a lot of social programming and behavior response get in their way of true success with women that can fit into their lifestyle. Some men have 'figured out' how to be successful with women, some men 'become' a man who makes it his main focus in life to 'pick up' or 'seduce' women. Most men, however are leading semi-interesting lives but are still having trouble with getting women.

I have made it my purpose to develop a strong and interesting lifestyle, and although women are an important aspect to the balance of my life, they are not my pure motivation for wanting to become something more. I really want to add a lot of value to the world and will, through my productions. Hot women are just a part of my orbital universe. Learn to become the center of your universe and not enter her orbit, because you will lose a lot of your own character, birthright and effectiveness.

There isn't a woman on earth who could 'trade off' so I could 'be lucky' to be around her yet give up my own destiny. If you can have this strong of a purpose and be congruent with it everywhere you go and every second you live, magical things will start happening. Most men will just focus all of their energies and lose self-control when the next hot girl walks by. She is not your world and you know that you wouldn't let her 'control' you in the future so why be like that up front?

When you are on YOUR path and not open to being swayed around by the perceptional visage of a woman and her drama, she will be attracted to the rock (you). Become an interesting and fascinating man and you will realize that every woman you do end up with will either fall in love with you, want to marry you, or experience tremendous fulfillment from what you can give her. She won't be able to put in words the level of attraction and desire she feels for you.

This gives you more confidence and a stronger foundation from which to base future relationships on. You are the standard. You are the man. You may invite other women to share in your reality. Too many men are swayed by a beautiful woman's drama and their edification of that reality. Centering your universe is truly more important than any pick up line.

Focus on your path and most often, the women will happen naturally as has happened to me. Biologically and naturally they are supposed to enter YOUR reality and not the other way around. Women are complaining because on the inside they are so tired of men basically entering a woman's reality (see, even they know it isn't right). You have the right to be a man and not let society's 'forced reality' try and whip you into ineffectiveness with women forever.

This often means saying 'No' to women who don't fit your idea of the relationship you want to have, or if she has too much drama for a relationship. This will really stump the beauties and you can feel your power meter rising when you really don't care.

If you start conceding to her reality, the relationship will fall apart and she won't call you back; BECAUSE it is not natural. This is part of the reason why we have a 50% divorce rate. Despite the feminist preachin', women desperately desire men who will still be men. They are stronger now, so you really have to be congruent with your own reality and then will attract massive success.

Hey, if I end up marrying a dramatic supermodel I know that it will probably end in divorce, and I'd probably do it for publicity and status alone (it's honestly a part of me, so who knows..it'd be fun for a while), but the only thing that will last is really to marry a traditional woman who doesn't have all of the drama that beautiful, independent women bring to the table. I don't plan on getting divorced and I think most men would want to lead their lifestyle with a woman who can support them and inspire them instead of nag and drag them down. How about you? Develop a strong life path.

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Workplace Stress Verse

Women and Workplace Stress: It's More than the Job!

Stress in the workplace has become a occupational health and safety risk worldwide, including the U.S. Debate centers around who is responsible for illness related to stress if the workplace is contributing. Research shows that a majority of work-related stress is borne out of attrition and the requirement for more in less time by employees. Our own culture of speed, convenience, and instant gratification also drives our stress reactions.

Is women’s workplace stress different than that of men’s?

Since stress, by definition, is the body’s response physiologically and psychologically to a “dangerous situation”, it stands to reason that what is perceived as dangerous in the work place is very individual. Research shows that women’s stress in the workplace is related more to lack of balance and demands of home and work combined, and men’s workplace stress related more to the job.

Research also shows that women in relationships do greater than 60% of household maintenance and childcare. Divorced and single women, living alone, more than likely have 80-100% of childcare responsibilities as well as the household chores. Consequently, women are likely to have obstacles finding time for their own stress reducing self-care. Women are more likely to arrive to work, stressed before their workplace demands begin.

Perceived locus of control is one area proven to be a predictor of stress. Therefore a woman working in an environment with little flexibility or choice would be a greater risk of distress than a climate of no-voice. Would it stand to reason that women therefore, that women with their own businesses would be less stressed than those working for someone else? Interestingly, women’s stress issues do not vary significantly. Women are multi-taskers by nature and enfold tasks within tasks. Work, family and home are not separate and the issues around balance prevail regardless of working for yourself or someone else. Women who own their own business have the same childcare and home issues as their sisters who are working for someone else. However, women, working in their own business are likely to be pursuing a passion and adopt a mindset that allows a positive attitude.

So, what some ways that woman can reduce work place stress?

1. Recognize that stress is a killer and not to be taken lightly.

Stress related illnesses are the leading cause of death and disability in women today. Recognition is the first step in any change process.

2. Take real breaks from work.

If your business requires that you be on the job at “normal” lunch times or other break times, make sure that you find time at other times in the day. Studies show that small breaks actually increase our efficiency, so you really can “afford” it. Walking outside can work wonders. Have a pair of walking shoes on site.

3. What, in your work environment, are you “tolerating” and allowing for on-going stress?

Cluttered space, equipment that needs repaired, lack of organization, tasks that need to be delegated, noise level, ergonomically unhealthy workplaces, and any number of other tolerations are worth the effort to resolve.

4. Communicating cleanly and assertively is a great way to reduce stress by addressing boundaries, expectations and needs in the workplace.

Women, many times, communicate on an emotional level. Unfortunately, with this sort of communication, the real message is lost in the feeling versus the doing.

5. Caffeine, by its very nature, causes a physiological stress response.

How much coffee or high caffeine soft drinks do you consume at work? Take steps to reduce or cut out caffeine all together. Increase your water intake.

6. Eat a good breakfast.

Studies show that eating breakfast is one of the healthiest habits we can adopt. Our bodies and brain has been without carbohydrate fuel for 12 hours or more. Time to fill up. Smoothies are great ways to get a great boost on the go. Yogurt, fruit, juice and a blender and you can start your day with protein, good carbohydrate, calcium and vitamins. Add some linseeds/flaxseeds and you have fiber and phytoestrogens too. All are significant for women’s good health!

7. Ideas you might like to try at the work place for stress reduction.

Calming oils of floral scents (rose, vanilla, lavender and nutmeg), a tennis ball to roll back and forth under the ball of your foot, and massage an acupressure calm point in the area of the hand between the index finger and thumb.

8. Self-care outside the workplace is of paramount importance for women.

Adequate sleep provides our bodies with chemical balancing and healing at a cellular level. Find out what needs to “give” to get you to bed for 7-8 hrs of sleep. Eating a diet of real food (limit or eliminate additives and chemicals) that fuels our bodies gives us a reserve to run on during stressful time. Exercise, though hard to timetable in our packed schedules is a great stress reducer.

9. Learn ways to relax that are meaningful for you.

This might seem like an obvious, overused, token suggestion. Most women do not really know how to relax. We have been so programmed to look after everything and everyone else. This feeling of responsibility carries over into our work as well. Learning what is relaxing to you is worth the effort. Turn off the T.V. Call a friend. Listen to some relaxing music. Commit to picking up an interest from the past, even if you do it in small steps. Time taken for pleasure will pay off in the long run in work efficiency.

10. Do not stress about reducing stress and make it “another stress”.

Pay attention to you body’s response to situations. What is your self talk? Make an effort to take deep breaths and change on-going negative talk to positive.

Workplace stress through our legislations is becoming an issue for which employers must take notice. However, the current lean operations of business, which is the one of the contextual issues cited for today’s stress, will not go away. For those of us who run our own businesses, we are our own employers. As women, we need to discern what is work stress. As women, we need to acknowledge what we can do for ourselves to reduce stress. We need to remember that old saying, if you don’t look after yourself, no one else will. Honour your self!

Jennifer Wright. I am an author, public speaker, teacher, and international lifestyle redesign and well-being coach for women. Visit www.wrightdirection.net for free e course: Wellness Magic7.