Friday, November 16, 2007

Woman With Her Friends Opus

How To Meet A Woman When She's With Her Friends


Hey Mr. Matthews,

I like your e mails a lot but there is one unusual problem with me. I like a girl in my chemistry class but the problem with her is that she only comes and goes in the class and always has her best friend (she's a girl) with her. They Both are always GLUED together so it makes very difficult for me to approach her and talk to her.

I tried a lot of times to approach her, after some time they Both start talking and I just sit staring at them.

There is only one month left for this semester to end and after that I will loose her if I dont do anything but what can I do????????

I have asked many people and tried many things but nothing seems to work. I just dont know what to do??????

--A Frustrated Student


Take heart, Frustrated Student, class is in session!

I, and many other men, have been in similar situations many, many times.

Let me make one thing clear right now that you must understand before you go out trying to meet women:


You heard me right. Pretty girls have a very high social status. They are almost always surrounded by people, be they girlfriends, boyfriends, male "nice guy" friends, brothers, sisters, parents - whatever! They will always be in groups of people.

It is very rare to see beautiful women alone. And when they are alone, they're usually waiting for someone!

The common term I refer to people who like to hang around with beautiful women is: OBSTACLES.

If you imagine you're on a race track, and at the end of the track is this girl you want to meet, all the rocks, hurdles, holes, and booby traps between you and her are OBSTACLES that can ruin your chances of meeting her.

But there is a way to navigate that minefield and avoid all these obstacles! That way is called:


Group theory is a system by which you actually address the girl's friends instead of trying to ignore them. Through group theory, you win over the girls peer group and turn them into YOUR support group.

Here's how it works...

The girl you want to meet is always with her friend, right? And you're worried that you can't approach the girl you like because the friend will interfere in some way.

So what you do is forget about the girl you like, and approach her friend first!

That's right...


Now, this doesn't mean you're going to try and pick-up the obstacle instead of the girl you really like. It just means you're going to overcome that obstacle before you reach for your prize!

Remember: You must disarm a land mine before you step on it!

You do this by acting disinterested in the girl you're really interested in, and focus on winning over the girl you don't really care for!

Then, once you've won over the obstacle, you ask if you can "borrow" her friend for a minute because you've been neglecting her. Once her friend gives you approval to talk to her alone, guess what? You've just gotten her STAMP of approval!

This means that the girl you like has no reason NOT to talk to you!

Then, you pull her off to the side, and work your magic one-on-one.

I talk more about group theory and various other tactics on meeting women in my book The Art Of Approaching: How To Meet Any Woman, Any Time, Anywhere You May Be! In it, I go in-depth on how to meet women and overcome any and all obstacles that may be in your path.

If you want to have the skills to meet beutiful women no matter what, click below now:

Don't wait. If you never get conrtol over this aspect of your life, you will be DOOMED to a life of quiet desperation, seeing opportunity after opportunity with women you like pass you by!

Wishing you success with women,

Joseph Matthews

Joseph Matthews has just released his comprehensive guide on how to overcome fear of rejection and meet and date tons of beautiful women. You can check out his website here:

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Meeting More Women Tonight Verse

How To Start Meeting More Women Tonight!

Has this ever happened to you?

You go out with some buddies for a night on the town, hoping to meet a girl to have some fun with. You head to a bar, get a booth, and order drinks. The place is kickin', and you and your buddies are having a good time looking at all the pretty girls... except nobody is meeting any them. You want to talk to them, but you feel more comfortable sitting around with your friends talking about how you would like to go home with a girl that night. Instead, you all end up leaving the same way you came in - together.

This is a pretty common occurrence among the lovelorn bachelor. This is a symptom of what I like to call the "comfort zone."

Basically, everyone has a comfort zone. This is a state of mind where people are surrounded by that which is FAMILIAR. Familiarity breeds complacency, which can keep you from taking the action necessary to achieve your goals, because that action introduces uncertainty into your life - something the comfort zone likes to keep at bay.

So when you want to meet a woman, you need to know how to break out of this comfort zone.

How do you do this?

The answer is self-evident: You must learn to meet women BY YOURSELF!

Friends can be a great asset, but most of the time, going out with friends actually HINDERS your ability to meet women. Not just because of the comfort zone factor, but because other guys who don't know what they're doing with girls can actually ruin the interactions you have with them - be it by jealousy or ineptitude.

So the best way to counter this is to LEAVE YOUR FRIENDS BEHIND.

But the prospect of going out by oneself can strike fear into the hearts of men. After all, doesn't going out by yourself signal to everyone that you're a loser with no friends? Doesn't it make you look creepy?

The answer to both these questions is:


The simple act of going out on your own can shake your comfort zone, because you have no anchors to keep you there. Often your friends will act as an anchor to your comfort zone that keep you from approaching women. And it is easier to break out of this comfort zone without those anchors present. Plus, you don't have to worry about failing with women and being judged by your friends if they're not around.

But the most powerful thing about going out by yourself is that it puts your focus on what you are doing. This means that every interaction you have is without distraction, so it is more easily examined and the problems you had are more easily identified. This allows you to spot your sticking points more quickly and correct them.

Not only that, but being out by yourself gives you the freedom of flexibility when it comes to where you're going and who you talk to. If you're bored with a place, you can leave and go to another one. If you want to talk to a girl who your friends might poke fun at you for, you can. Not only this, but you're free to mess up the interactions you have, because chances are, no one there will ever see you again, so you don't have to worry about what others think of you.

But like all things, knowing what to say will help you to go out by yourself and succeed at increasing your ability to approach. There are many examples of Openers to say in my book The Art of Attraction, but some guys will need to know how to handle the inevitable question "Where are your friends?"

Something I've used to great effect is the answer "Oh, they're around." This simple dismissive statement not only answers the question, but as far as anyone knows, you're telling the truth.

But if you want to take it a step further, I've even used this as an Opener at times I've been out by myself.

***The "My Friends Ditched Me" Opener***

This works good whenever you're out somewhere by yourself. Basically, you approach your target or a group, and say:

"Hey guys, you won't believe this. All week, me and my friends have been planning on going out and having a good time, because we've all been busy and we wanted to blow off some steam. So we made plans to go out tonight, right? Well, one by one they call me up and say stuff like "I'm too tired," or "My girlfriend wants to watch a movie," and stuff like that. Some friends huh? Bunch of lame-o's. But I'm thinking there might be something more to this, because last week two of my friends had a knock-down drag out fight over some girl they both like, so the situation is all weird. Do you guys have any friends who got split up by someone they both liked?"

Using this, you set the stage that you're out by yourself because, well, unlike your friends, YOU'RE not lame! Not only that, you throw in a nice Drama Opener in there to engage the group.

And if you're still too shy to go out by yourself, then try this little trick:

When you go out with your friends -- DITCH THEM. Go off on your own and leave them behind for a while, then meet up with them later. This can be quite an effective method if your friends don't mind you leaving!

If you don't know what a Drama Opener is, check it out in my book The Art of Approaching. It's got TONS of openers and other things to say so that you never have to worry about how you're going to meet women again. If you're one of those guys who gets tounge-tied around beautiful girls, or if your mind likes to "blank" out on you, then you definitely need to check out my book right now:

Once you learn the secrets I unleash in my book, you'll know how to meet any woman, any time, anywhere you may be -- whether you're alone or not!

To your success!

Joseph Matthews

Joseph Matthews has just released his comprehensive guide on how to overcome fear of rejection and meet and date tons of beautiful women. You can check out his website here:

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Where Your Women Are Ode

It’s Friday, Do You Know Where Your Women Are?

To quote the actor Chris Tucker - "It's Friday, you ain't got no job, and you ain't got sh*t to do!"

Well, maybe you do have a job and things to do, but are you doing the things you WANT to do?

Namely: Are you going out tonight to meet some women?

Friday night is probably the BEST night of the week to meet women.

Think about it:

It's been a long, hard week. People are getting off work. They don't have anything to do the next day. They can sleep in as late as they want. They're looking to unwind and release some stress. In other words...

They're out looking to have fun!

And what does having fun entail? Well, for most women, having fun on a Friday night means - MEETING A MAN!

That's right. We go out to meet women. They go out to meet us!

But the question you gotta ask yourself is: Are they gonna meet YOU?

This is important, {!firstname}. This can mean the difference between getting laid and quietly sobbing in the shower.

So how are these women going to meet you?

Well, that's entirely up to you. I can give you some suggestions that will help you out, but honestly, it's up to you to act and make it happen.

The first thing you need to do to make sure women are going to meet you tonight is...

Are you ready?


That's step number one. You GOTTA get out and go to where the women are. This means going out with friends, or, if they're not around to hang out, go out by yourself!

Regardless of how you do it, if you DON'T go out, you have 0% chance of meeting women. (I'm talking real women who could go home with you TONIGHT! Not internet women).

The second step is **go to where the women are!**

This is important. Bars and clubs are always a good bet to find women. But if that's not your scene, you have other options available to you.

1. Happy hour.

--Yes, I know, this is a bar thing. But, happy hour usually occurs BEFORE things get too hectic, so if you're older, this may be a good alternative to fighting off all those youngsters out there. Most women go to happy hour after work, and then go home and change for a night out on the town. This is a GREAT opportunity for you to set up a date for LATER THAT NIGHT.

2. Bookstores & Coffee Shops

--If you have a little bit more of a laid back lifestyle, bookstores and coffee shops are a good place to check out on a Friday night. If you can find a coffee shop that's open late, all the better! Typically, the women here are quieter, book-worm wallflower types. So it may be harder to initially engage them, but it'll be easier to wrangle them into a conversation.

3. Hotel Lobbies & Bars

--No, I'm not talking about the lobby of your local "Day's Inn." I'm talking about the NICE hotels in your area. You know, the 4 & 5 star kind with valet parking and an extremely nice bar area. These can be great places to meet women, especially considering a lot of "hotel hotties" are from out of town and looking for some adventure. This scene is also more laid back and less intense than your typical bar and club.

Okay, so now that we've covered step 1 & 2, it's time to go to the final step:


Let's face it, even though women's lib is going strong, women STILL don't typically approach guys. They wait for YOU to approach THEM.

So that begs the question: How do you approach them?

In my book, "The Art of Approaching," I go into this subject in detail. Inside my book, you'll find:
- Specific stories guaranteed to start a conversation with any woman you meet.
- Funny one-liners to get her laugh right away!
- Tactics to easily get 10-12 numbers a night.
- A step-by-step guide that teaches you how to overcome any fear or nervousness you may have when it comes to meeting women!
- Much, much more...

At the very least, walk up to these women and introduce yourself. But if you really want to SUPERCHARGE your ability to meet the kind of beautiful, interesting women you've always wanted, be sure to check out my book here:

Wishing you success with women,

Joseph Matthews

Joseph Matthews has just released his comprehensive guide on how to overcome fear of rejection and meet and date tons of beautiful women. You can check out his website here:

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Meet More Women Poem

Use Your Environment To Meet More Women


Joseph Matthews here. I want to share a story with you all that I thought was interesting.

Friday night, I was out with a friend of mine clubbing. As we were walking from one club to another, we saw two women walking together in front of us.

These women were HOT!

So hot, in fact, that every guy they passed by on the sidewalk tried to talk to them. How did they try this? By saying things like:

"Hey, where you going?"

"Damn, you fine!"

"Hey, come back here, baby!"

Needless to say, these girls were completely ignoring each and every guy who talked to them.

It's a harsh reality that most girls who are as hot as these two were get approached by men ALL THE TIME, and have heard every stupid line in the book. In fact, they get approached so much, that they don't even respond anymore. They're just focused on getting to where they're going.

So of course, upon seeing this, I thought to myself "How would I approach these girls?"

The answer was pretty self-evident. In fact, it was staring me right in the face!

The situation was dictating what I should say to them.

"Oh my god! Every single guy is trying to pick you guys up! How annoying is that? You guys need to hire BODYGUARDS just to keep all these horny waldos at bay!"

This is an example of a SITUATIONAL OPENER.

Situational Openers can be the best way to meet a woman if they are done right. This is because this type of Opener is UNIQUE to the interaction you are having with the woman.

Not only that, but it shows you guys have a common understanding of the reality you are mutually experiencing. And that, my friends, creates a connection between the two of you.

It's like knowing the punchline to a joke most others have no clue about.

And more importantly, this is one of my most favorite kind of situational opener, namely, the "Crash and Burn" opener.

This is a situational opener where you capitalize on other men's failures, while conveying the illusion that you are different from the other guys and are not looking to get into the woman's pants (even though the truth may be VASTLY different from that which you are conveying).

For example, anytime you are in a situation where there are women you want to approach, and you see a guy go up to them and try to hit on them, this gives you the chance to use the "Crash and Burn" opener.

Simply walk up to the girl, and comment on what the other guy did wrong.

Saying things like:

"So, how'd he do?"


"Did it hurt? He was hitting on you pretty hard. Did it hurt?"

Or anything along those lines will open up your target for conversation. These types of "Crash and Burn" openers work great in high stimulus environments where girls are being hit on (like bars and clubs, for example).

So next time you see some poor schmoe strike out, be sure to take the opportunity to capitalize on it!

You can find out more about the "Crash and Burn" Opener, along with other Situational Openers in my ebook, "The Art of Approaching: How to meet ANY Woman, ANY Time, ANY Where you may be."

You can download your own copy of this ebook right now at and be reading it in seconds. Just go to the link below...

Until next time!

Your friend,

Joseph Matthews

Joseph Matthews has just released his comprehensive guide on how to overcome fear of rejection and meet and date tons of beautiful women. You can check out his website here:

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Own Radio Show Serenade

Record Your Own Radio Show from Anywhere

You're On The Air!

Have you ever wanted to be on the radio? Produce your own radio talkshow? Ever since I was a kid I have been recording my voice, or my music on to various formats of tape recorders and most recently computers. (Check my music website at I am excited about some brand new recording devices and a new forum called "podcasting" to get your message or music out to the world.

Podcast is a term coined for Internet broadcasting by combining the words "iPod" and "broadcast." Podcasts are created and posted to the Internet as an MP3 file that you can download to your computer and listen to.

Using mp3 audio to broadcast a message was formerly known as “audio-blogging.” With millions of iPod owners out there, the name became associated with Apple's, iTunes. Podcasting software allows you to be automatically updated when a specific podcast you subscribe to has been updated.

Here's How Podcasting Works…

A Podcast, or your "Radio Show" is basically a file sitting ona website waiting to be downloaded. When someone subscribes to the Podcast by using easily available freeware. The program will check for updates and download any new files to your playlist. To automatically sync files to your iPod, you'll need to use a podcast client. iPodder is a free, open-source client that is available for Mac OS X, Windows & Linux.

Podcasting is realtively new and because of this many new podcasts are be created. The cool thing about podcasts is that anyone can create them. It's quite simple to get started and there is very little start-up cost to creating your own podcast. All you need is some recording software, a microphone, a show idea and a page on the Web to make your podcast available.

Choose a topic that you're passionate about. It could be about music, health and wellness, sports or politics, then plan your podcast. The best way to post your podcast to the Web is using FTP. Podcasts are typically large files so FTP protocol is designed to safely upload large files.

MP3 Player or computer with iTunes installed

Let's Get started

A: Record your Podcast to MP3 format
(I recommend the portable Edirol R-1, or the iRiver for recording directly to MP3 remotely.)
I use Apple's Garage Band for editing and recording at home.

B: Upload your MP3 to a website

C: Create an RSS feed of your podcast
I am using WebJay an online html generator

To find a podcast, simply type "new podcasts" into a search engine like Google.

You could also visit an online directory of podcasts such as

There are also communities such as:, PodcastAlley, and Digital Podcast.

Colin Arthur is a professional singer/songwriter and the co-founder of The Universal Advertising Group an online advertising company. "Finally! You can have a money generating website up in 5 minutes. Follow the step by step tutorials and join our advertising group that will drive traffic to your sites!"

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